There are different levels of homemaking. To put my homemaking goals into perspective, I find it helpful to think of contracting for a grade. Sometimes, instead of assuming every student is aiming for perfection and grading on how close each assignment comes, instructors allow each student to set his own goals. For example, in order to earn an A, the student must do well on three assignments, but to earn a B, he only needs to complete two assignments. In my understanding of homemaking, earning an A would mean reproducing what my memory knows Grammy did in her home tucked away in the Appalachian mountains. There were always fresh cookies and a cake. The floor was gleaming. The laundry seemed to process itself, not to speak of the garden and handcrafts. I’d be happy to make B’s: to put healthy, home cooked meals on the table, clean clothes in the closet, and maintain general order all around. Making C’s is what I have done most days for the last three years since my son was born, and I undertook homemaking full time. I’ve realized that, sometimes, in order to be an A or even B grade wife and mom, I must settle for passing as a homemaker. Often, the laundry is clean, but it’s in a pile on the bedroom floor. The dishes get washed once every twenty-four hours. I clean the guest bath while my husband welcomes friends at the front door. And my husband, children, and friends receive the love and attention which make our house happy place for them to be.
Contracting for a homemaking grade November 4, 2011